I don’t have a prescription for keeping chaos at bay. Embrace chaos. Yaar, sure I make the beds and keep my place tidy but more because it looks nice and it’s what I care about. The males in the household couldn’t care a jot. Keeping the place clean and tidy is my prideful deal, and I don’t think it’s so very important. Living with 3 male humans, one dog and two cats I feel it more necessary to keep our space a sanctuary for all of us.